tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885774351070779042.post2105949296120600233..comments2023-11-05T04:00:06.454-08:00Comments on Random Thoughts From A Highly Unorganized And Slightly Twisted Brain: Avoid ConflictShellie Paparazzohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14048917024582193047noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4885774351070779042.post-52022512544989415102011-12-21T00:26:23.547-08:002011-12-21T00:26:23.547-08:00You may have a duty to your parents and siblings, ...You may have a duty to your parents and siblings, but you have a more important duty to your husband and your children. I do not fault you at all for not going to their house this holiday. In fact, I think, by showing them that their treatment of you and your children is such that you can not in good conscience allow it to continue, is showing them love, and discernment. <br /><br />I'm really proud of you for standing up to the abuse and doing your best to, in love, make it stop. This is a life long habit that needs a flashing neon sign upside the head before anyone is going to notice. You've turned on the lights, now you just have to hope you make impact! <br /><br />Yes, Christ asks us to turn the other check, to reach out to the lost, especially our family, but he also does not ask us to seek out abuse. We have a difficult family member, God has blessed us with only one, thankfully. We do not leave our children with him. We avoid letting him drive whenever we can. We will not take a job that puts us within a days drive of his residence (at this time). We know God loves him, and wants us to retain a relationship with him, but for the safety of our children, and our own fragile relationship with the Lord, that must occur at a distance. Plus, our primary mission is elsewhere as it is obvious God does not want us to go there, or anywhere else, at this time, yet. <br /><br />I'm sorry your husband would just avoid. I think all of us have things we'd rather just avoid. I will go worlds to avoid conflict if it's at all feasible. As you know, my husband also has his own little world. His hearing has kept him from so much of the social interactions, that he just lives there unless someone pulls him out by actively engaging him. I know it's not the same thing, but I do find myself also trying to rehash events to make him "see" what it is I am talking about, that he simply missed because he was not participating in the social and seeing what was happening. <br /><br />I would not feel bad about this post, you cleared it with your husband, and no husband is perfect (nor is any wife). Their faults are frustrating, and sometimes you do just need scream it out to your support (and occasionally the world at large). Wishing your family a very Merry Holiday, just the 5 of you!<br /><br />KtCKtCallistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02638889398163267464noreply@blogger.com